Anonymous said: Any advice for what to do if what your partner thinks is sexy is much different than what you think is sexy? Like even down to the color :(
That is a challenge! I actually wrote a post on a similar topic a few months ago, which I hope might be able to help a little: http://thelingerielesbian.com/2013/11/20/reader-question-i-love-lingerie-my-partner-doesnt-is-there-any-way-we-can-enjoy-it-together/
Anonymous said: Do you have any recommendation for lingerie with a mermaid feel to it? Things in colors like teal perhaps?
Yes! There is lots of teal lingerie around, so maybe I’ll write a whole ‘Lingerie for Mermaids’ post :). I have ideas already!
Anonymous said: Hi, um, so I have a bra that fits really well until I lift my arms over my head or reach out or something like that, at which point a little breast tissue slips out and I get pit pudge. Should I get a different style bra or go up a cup size? Thanks
Honestly, it’s hard for me to say without seeing you in person exactly what you should do, but I think that trying a larger cup size is a great first step. Remember, you should try to swoop and scoop all of your breast tissue into the cup when you first put it on and it should stay quite nicely if it’s a good size. You may also want to try going down in the back size if the band is riding up when you lift your arms— I couldn’t quite tell if that was an issue for you, but I thought I’d mention it.
It’s always possible that a larger size won’t work and it’s a style issue, but I think starting with trying different sizes is your best first step. Good luck!
Mislabeling happens, which is understandable because sometimes information like this can be hard to find, manufacturers intentionally or unintentionally (through receiving misinformation themselves) mislabel, and some of it is just plain confusing!
This is by no means meant to be an absolute guide to what definitely is and is not a certain garment, it’s just some general guidelines that these garments usually follow. (Things like closures, boning type, and sizing often vary by manufacturer and style.) It also doesn’t include nearly every type of lingerie and shapewear, as there is so much out there! This is just meant to clear up a few common misconceptions. <3
If you’re a more visual person, here are picture examples of all of the garments listed!
Crop Top/Outerwear Bustier: